Anonymous said: I identify as an ace, and was just wondering, is it possible for aces to experience 'wet dreams'? Because I haven't, and if it's really uncommon it can maybe an indicator? (this sounds really unscientific i am just wondering)
Yeah, they probably could, but without sexual attraction giving us more food for fantasy, it’s less likely. Dreams are how we process the events of the day. So if your daily events don’t include anything sexual, you probably won’t dream of anything sexual and therefore won’t have wet dreams.
If the poster is referring to nocturnal emissions, they are a physiological response that does not necessarily correspond to having a dream with sexual content. They just kind of happen.
They don’t happen to everyone, though. Apparently, about 15-20% of people (regardless of orientation) have never had one. Those that do have them vary widely in frequency, and frequency will tend to drop off with age.
You might not even be aware that you’re having them. They’re not necessarily connected to sex dreams (or any dreams at all), and not all sex dreams will lead to a nocturnal emission. If you wake up during or just after, you might notice, but if you sleep through it, it could be dry by the morning and not leave much trace behind.
I had a few that I noticed when I was a teenager, but as far as I’m aware, I haven’t had one in years. I do, however, have sex or masturbation dreams a couple of times a year.
Where are people getting the idea that “cisgender” means “straight”? Because I keep seeing people say things like “I thought I was cisgender, but I might be asexual instead” or “I’m cisgender, so I don’t understand what it’s like to be gay”, which does not compute. Those are not mutually exclusive things. The two concepts not even remotely contradictory. It’s like saying “I’m tall, so I don’t understand what it’s like to have bad eyesight”. What? No, that’s not how it works.
Are they independent misunderstandings, or is someone actively giving out a bad definition?
So. For the long time I thought I was cisgendered and I was fine with it even though I thought I was horrible at maintaining sex drive. It’s always felt like I have to pretend to be something else, or that maybe it’s just natural for a girl to not think about sex all the time. I started doing some research.
The more I read about being asexual….. The more I know I’m asexual.
I don’t know how to feel about this.
Time to do more research!!
Being cisgender and being asexual are not mutually exclusive. Cisgender is a gender identity, while asexuality is a sexual orientation. If you’re cisgender, then the body parts you were born with match your gender, in other words, you’re a woman with a vagina or a man with a penis, in other words, anyone who’s not trans. It’s possible to be cisgender and any sexual orientation.
This needed to be said. Bring back the lime.
Did you really think that claiming that asexuality doesn’t exist would make it through the moderation queue on my site? I do appreciate that you posted on the “Things That Are Just Plain Wrong” article, though.
I really need to start a collection of the reactions of people who are liveblogging their first viewing of the asexuality episode of House.
It’s really depressing to see the initial elation get crushed into a flaming pile of rage over the course of an hour. It’s an example of why we need more visibility and better representation.