13. Your favourite asexual website.
Again, I only know of one: AVEN.
Does anyone know of any others?
i never thought about it before but “Group X” sounds like it would make a great title for an action/suspense/whatever novel or movie about badass asexuals tbh
Sounds like that needs a movie poster.
So… Movie poster:
Anonymous asked: What is the meaning of the colour of the Asexual flag? ò-ò
From the original thread proposing the flag:
I’ve seen two different explanations of what the colors stand for:
- Black = asexuality, Gray = gray-asexuality and demisexuality, White = asexual allies and partners, Purple = community (source).
- Black, Gray, White = the whole asexual spectrum (compare the AVEN triangle), Purple = community.
(I personally prefer the second one.)
The idea behind the white/gray/black is that it represents the shades of sexuality. White is sexual, gray is for “gray-A” people, and black represents asexual.
Purple is added because AVEN is primarily purple and it adds a nice accent color that most of us are able to agree on.
The definition of the colors I gave was from research I did at the time of my post, research that involved many of the threads about the creation of the flag and a number of more recent takes on the issue. It seemed to fit the current usage more closely than a number of the earliest definitions.
People might not be a fan of “allies”, but would you rather have it be for all ”Sexuals” [sic]?
So some character on the TV Show Sirens is explicitly asexual, we need to include that in our weekly linkspam.
Based on a Tumblr search, lots of people have opinions on it, but nobody explains what the hell is going on. Dear readers, opinions are useless if no one can evaluate them. I’m seriously finding better commentary on AVEN.
Okay so I just watched that episode, I’ll give my take on it. But keep in mind I have never heard of the show before today, and have not seen any other episode.
The show is about various EMTs, as they respond to comedic and strange calls. Throughout the episode, the guy is trying to woo Vodoo, the asexual woman. From the gifset you’ve probably seen, the term is defined as “never having sex” by some of the guys there. I don’t remember the exact language they use, but they also warn him that Vodoo is “crazy” [I don’t remember if they actually used the word crazy, but it was one of those “she is more likely to kill you or do terrible things than actually go on a date with you” conversations so I assume they did]. In her reactions, Vodoo has clearly dealt with this kind of thing before and just seems really annoyed. By the end of the episode, the guy has basically accepted never having sex with her- although I didn’t get the impression he understands asexuality. They do end up kind of sort of bonding at the end of the episode though when he presents her with a gift: a birdhouse created by a man they responded to earlier in the episode (who had accidentally cut off a finger), with his cut off finger inside it (apparently they failed to reattach it). It is, of course, really weird and creepy. But she thinks it’s cool (going in with the whole “she is crazy and creepy description the other guys made), and they seem to have a happy moment.
So with regards to asexuality:
cons: it didn’t define asexuality well, and the asexual character is reallllly creepy in some ways (but really human in others, at least in her just generally being annoyed at his advances but also politely dealing with him). Who knows if they will do anything awful in future episodes.
pros: The show didn’t endorse anything any characters said; I got the impression they didn’t know anything and their definition shouldn’t be trusted. I didn’t really get the impression that her creepiness and asexuality were portrayed as tied together, they seemed coincidental. I think her creepiness was kind of meant to come off as sort of weird and harmlessly charming- and I guess, come to think of it, I didn’t get that impression about her asexuality, it honestly seemed pretty normal and mundane. For all the weirdness, I felt like it was pretty good representation. But this may be me reading things more positively than I should, or just being very pessimistic. My thoughts are basically: they didn’t try and “cure” or “fix” her like House, and for all her portrayal of creepy she didn’t seem like the “asshole sociopath” stereotype Sherlock (on the other hand, gender may be relevant for these portrayals), so I actually didn’t mind it.
A few other notes:
- This show is one that is, at times, deliberately offensive. If you go into it expecting a fully positive portrayal of asexuality, you’ll come away angry. The two main EMTs are a pair of walking bingo cards and Letters To An Asexual. They think they know all about asexuality, and they go to great lengths to throw out insults, at several points in the episode. However, they’re also portrayed as loud-mouth jerks, who are generally wrong and made the butt of jokes. This isn’t like House’s “Dead or lying” comment, where it’s supposed to be taken as truth. These guys are meant to be viewed as assholes who are wrong about everything.
- It really feels like asexuality is just going to be used as a plot device that’ll get used as a joke factory at the main character’s expense. In a way, that might be good. They won’t be laughing at the asexual character, instead, they’ll be laughing at the sexually frustrated boyfriend(?). On the down side, expect many ”Friend Zone” jokes.
- There is a lot of sex on the show. If that’s not your thing, steer clear. Wait for someone to upload an asexuality highlight reel to Youtube and watch that.
- Gray triangle? Really?
- Expect EMT and Asexual Woman to have sex at some point. Again, it’ll be used as fuel for jokes at EMT’s expense. I wouldn’t expect her to be “fixed” by the encounter, though, since that would be the less funny way to go.
Me: does the Bible have anything to say about asexuality?
Youth minister: I’m not sure. Why?
Me: I identify as asexual.
YM: You’ll get better, you just haven’t met the right person.
I am so angry right now and may also be crying
The personal science project that’s been occupying most of my time lately has been running stable for a couple of days now. Since it doesn’t have a clear need for reprogramming or reengineering (Like it has pretty much every other day since I started…), it’s at a point where I just have to wait. Seismic events aren’t scheduled, so I don’t know how long it’ll be. (Hopefully there won’t be another landslide in the area. My original seismometer picked up a signal from the Oso Slide. I’d rather not have that something like that as my next test signal.)
Anyway, with that temporarily running on its own, perhaps I can get back to my asexuality writing project for a bit. That’s been neglected for too long already.